Abusive Relationship / Emotional Abuse

Symptom of abusive relationships :

1) Is violent and / or loses his temper quickly.

2) Claims you are responsible for his emotional state.

3) Blames you when he mistreats you.

4) Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.

5) Your partner “rages” when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.

6) You frequently worry about how he will react to things you say or do.

7) He grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship.

8) Deliberately distorts the facts and assigns blame to you.

9) Constantly makes you feel guilty for things you have not done or had done.

10) He hit walls, do other dangerous things to scare you.

11) like “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde,” acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone.

12) When the abuser disallows and overrules any viewpoints, perceptions or feelings which differ from their own.

13) Emotional Blackmail:

The other person plays on your fear, guilt, compassion, values, or other “hot buttons” to get what they want.

This could include threats to end the relationship, totally reject or abandon you, giving you the the “cold shoulder,” or using other fear tactics to control you.

14) Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment. This is sometimes called the “silent treatment.”