Mind

When things go wrong in our life and we encounter difficult situations we tend to regard the situation itself as the problem, but in reality whatever problems we experience come from the side of the mind. If we were to respond to difficult situations with a positive or peaceful mind they would not be problems for us; indeed we may even come to regard them as challenges or opportunities for growth and development. Problems arise only if we respond to difficulties with a negative state of mind. Therefore, if we want to be free from problems we must learn to control our mind.

the CRITIC

Criticism is a reflection more of the critic than of the person being criticized.

If somebody is critical of you, trying to show you in a bad light. If you dwell on it, or get upset & revengeful, the person who threw that stone has accomplished his or her goal.

Truth is, we all have some slingers in our lives, people who try to bring us down with their words or actions. Even your own parent and sibling did the same stuff!!!!

Some of them may be a friend to your face, but the real fact is : they have been poking and telling bad about you to others. They shred you at any opportunity they have.

Positive Declaration

God is my creator. He gave me peace and I can find rest in Him. I was His child and will always be blessed by Him every day, and keep it up from now to eternity. God is magnificent. There is no boundaries to His greatness.

I am blessed, I am the conqueror and was equipped, I am healthy, I am happy, I am prosperous, I have peace, I am secure, I am confident, I am sucessful, I am a victor, I am a blessing, I am worthy……… I can do all things…….

I can do all things through Christ who strengthen me.

(Psalm 145 & Phil 4:13)

kEEP PRESSING FORWARDS

A few points that will help you move forward everydays:

- Get your eyes off your problems and onto your God

- Keep a positive vision

- God never performs His greatest feats in your yesterday

- Other people do not determine your potential

- Do not allow naysayers in your path to keep you from pressing foward

- Do not allow other people actions, attitudes, or comments to cause you to give up in God given dream for you. Do not allow their unbelief to influence your faith

- Out of our greatest rejection comes our direction. When one door closes, God is about to open up a bigger and a better door.

- In my weakness: you show up the strongest, walk that step of faith, let God takes you to the places you never dare to dreamed.

Give Up!?

Paul said: “If other people don’t want to believe God for better things in their lives, fine; but that won’t keep me from believing. I know the promises of God are in me.”

We should have a KEEP PRESSING FORWARD mindset, even when people around kept discouraging us or if we met with difficulties in certain issue. We shouldn’t give up easily. Our greatest rejection comes our greatest Direction.

Disconnected

Different Mentality; goal; thought will all this able to combine?

Or the more conversation will eventually tear each other apart? or cause the deduction of the love bank account? will the other party misinterpret the meaning you are trying to said?

How to let the other party know that the conversation is not to destroy the relationship, but to build it for better not worst. Otherwise both will not spend so much time talking together.

Maybe both should set a goal after each talk and have a review session one month later after each talk to see if there is any improvement in the relationship, if not bring it up again and again, until it finally reach the goal. Setting goal needs both party to be committed to the direction and goal they have set(not just one party)

In conclusion, if the talk is not connecting then both will be disconnected eventually………………..

Expiry Date

In our daily living, there is always an expiry date in everythings we used. Wondering if there is expiry date in relationship? Maybe there is, but in human term they don’t call it ‘Expiry Date’ for seperation they called ‘Divorce’ or ‘Break Off’ (but in actual fact, it is an Expiry Date, is just that it doesn’t appear or mention at the start of the relationship, the alert button is unpredictable)

Sadden? even how much each other love is, it will change when time gone… it will only remain true and long lasting, if both party really put in effort to love and built their relationship. But man is visual…. one day their wife will eventually turn old…. at that juncture they will be attracted to younger and prettier women……. that the reason why we always saw man looking at beautiful women when they go out with their family on a weekend.(Sad, his wife was forgotten by him – having giving him a family and bearing his children…….sacrifice her life and time for him and his family) Why ? it unfair, why not women also be created to be visual…. also look at other men when they go out with their husband/boyfriend….. so it will be fairer. Wondering, will their husband begin to felt how it will hurt when your wife go out with you, holding your hand, but looking/imaging she is with that muscular/handsame man she saw on the street.

Empty Promises

Do not utter any word of promises to people if you can’t even keep your word. This just show how irresponsible that the person is in his word and also reflect how insincere and dishonest he is. Simply the act of a liar, their problem of not gaining trust from others, cause they are not even responsible in the words they have said/promise.

Communication – Let not just do the talking talk, but talk with your Heart

Communication is good….. !? But well not always, cause it depend on how the message was communicate between people. And there is many different area of communication, not only do the talking talk – body language play apart too. Just imagine if you are talking to someone who glare somewhere else other then looking at you. Will you still enjoy talking to this person? or will you feel irritated if someone kept repeating the same topic through out the day. It make it seem like he have nothing much to say, but yet kept repeating the same old crab…. boring……..

Some people talk for the sake of killing time… some is to pass informaton, some is gossiping………

Lets identify this 2 type of communication:

True Communication

The talk is honest and open… the purpose of this talk is to increase the bonding and build a better and stronger relationship between two people. (Usually for close friend, couple and family)

Conceal Communication

This kind of communication will pull people apart, once the other party feel and sense that the person is not speaking truly and is not sincere in everythings that he have utter, is mere rubbish.

Time will show the true colour of a person. A person can talk or promise you a million things, and TIME is the best prove to show the sincerity of that person. It is always good to identify who is really a friend to you through the way they communicate with you.

Good communication need the effort of both party, it will not clap by one hand. Honesty and sincerity is the best policy when you hoping to increace your relationship with your love one. And remember to keep your promises, otherwise don’t just merely said it out, if a person don’t even care of what he talk, this show how irresponsible that person was.

So lets have a wonderful communication with your love one. Honesty, sincerity and be responsible in your words will make the person around you happier.

All About Communication

Communication Breakdown
Although we speak with people everyday, true communication is an entirely more personal and dynamic event that is critical for growth in Relationships and understanding. Men and women inherently communicate differently, so it should be no surprise when communication challenges arise between couples. Since effective communication is essential to moving ahead in life, when there are problems relating to each other, it can prove extremely detrimental to any relationship.

Literally, there are tens of thousands of books out there written on this topic alone. Communication is a huge word, and while we may all understand what it means, we so often completely fail in understanding its process and raw power to influence radical change in all areas of life. It is striking that so many marriages completely end on this one component alone. Both spouses may love each other dearly, but without proper communication, that love goes unnoticed and the result is often terrible and tragic.

Understand, Not Understood
Communication failure occurs when one person feels that they are not understood. How many times do you react when a love one doesn’t understand you? We want to be understood….we want to know that our husband or wife, friend, or loved one understands us. And when we don’t feel understood, we react, whether silently, verbally, or with action. Usually those reactions are negative and feed into the cycle of breakdown. But consider this: of all the times you focused on not being understood, how often have you tried to understand the other person? It often doesn’t occur to us in an argument that our loved one is also trying to be understood just like us. Clearly, if we sought more to understand, rather than always seeking to be understood, a lot of arguing would cease and we would find that the cycle of endless hurt is broken.