LETS BREAK!

Lets break the silence circle, it is no good to subpress your inner most voice. Often those people who are more introvert, will not voice up when they met some difficulty in things or people. They thought the better way of calming down is not to mention about it. But it is wrong by doing so, cause indirectly you are hurting your own mind, body and soul.

Once too much things and thought have accumulated via time, it will eventually explode in an unknown period… or by subpressing your feeling, it will turn into depression one day or you might even turn into a very angry person.

Previously I was practicing classical music almost everyday. Classical Music really calm one mind, it will help you to be more focus in the things you do. It actually train a person to be more discipline and organise too. I have benefited a lot by listening and playing  classical music, they help me to increase my senses, focusness, consentration and i become a more calm and steady person. The most important things: Classical music have brighten up my days and I begin to live more happily.

In summary, Classical music can help a person to become more courages, they will break their silence and stand up for themselve. By not chosing to ran away from things. They will face each chanllege with courage and postive attitude. Yes! Hope all of you start listening to Classical Music and let it benefit you too.

Wishing all staying in pink of health.

Symptoms of Emotional Abuse

“I feel depressed, but my boyfriend/husband doesn’t seem to care, and won’t help me with it.
Is it possible that my depression is being caused by my relationship?”

Many women assume that if they’re not being physically abused by their partner, then they’re not being abused.  That’s not necessarily true.   You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you — you might not have recognized that your partner has eroded your self-esteem and happiness.

An abusive partner will railroad discussions, so that you don’t have time to think about what’s right and what’s wrong in their behavior.

Take a moment to consider these questions.  Your partner might have behaved as though these things were okay, even though it’s obvious that they aren’t okay…:

Do you feel that you can’t discuss with your partner what is bothering you?

Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem?

Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself?

Does your partner isolate you from friends, family or groups?

Does your partner limit your access to work, money or material resources? 

Has your partner ever stolen from you?  Or run up debts for you to handle? 

Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close? 

Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an argument about it?

Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?

Has your partner ever thrown away your belongings, destroyed objects or threatened pets?

Are you afraid of your partner?

Dating Violence

Finally Singapore have launches it first Dating Violence awareness campaign.

The campaign wants to encourage victims of dating violence to revamp their relationships. It is organised by social workers at the “Centre for Promoting Alternative to Violence” and the Nanyang Technological University.

Experts say that abuse in relationships in Singapore usually goes unreported, and that many victims remain trapped in a violent relationship because they lack the courage to walk away or are unaware that they are victims of dating violence.

Dr Maliki Osman, Parliamentary Secretary for National Development, said: “When we started looking at couples with violence as a key problem, the violence has not just occurred overnight or even during marriage. It has occurred way before marriage.”

Defining Dating Violence
Dating violence is a pattern of assaultive and controlling behaviors that one person uses against another in order to gain or maintain power and control in the relationship. The abuser intentionally behaves in ways that cause fear, degradation and humiliation to control the other person. Forms of abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional and psychological.

What is Abuse?
Sometimes it is hard and confusing to admit that you are in an abusive relationship, or to find a way out. There are clear signs to help you know if you are being abused. If the person you love or live with does any of these things to you, it’s time to get help:

- criticizes you for little things
- gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
- controls how you spend your money
- controls your use of needed medicines
- humiliates you in front of others
- destroys your property or things that you care about
- threatens to hurt you, the children, or pets, or does hurt you (by
hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, or
biting)
- uses or threatens to use a weapon against you
- forces you to have sex against your will
- blames you for his or her violent outbursts